For the past three months, our girls have been sleeping separately because when they sleep together, they just don’t fall asleep. Sure, after a while they do, but that while usually lasts a good 2-3 HOURS. So we finally separated them and life got back to peaceful. But we have company coming next week and we need to forfeit some of those sleeping quarters. To prepare them for that, tonight I put Laney down with Noelle. They did fine for about 10 minutes and then Laney started crying and saying she wanted to sleep with Emery. Fine (I realize that was mistake #1).
Taking Laney out of Noelle’s room caused quite the drama because Noelle has been begging to have Laney sleep with her for weeks and was SO excited to have her in her room. To have her suddenly taken away was cause for tears and fears.
So I move Laney down with Emery, who was on the brink of sleep in her crib. Instead, when Laney came in, she popped right up and started laughing and trying to play with her sister. After Emery throwing her blanket, pillow, bunny, and sippy out of the crib, and Laney kicking her feet on the wall for 10 minutes, I finally had enough and took Laney BACK up to Noelle’s room. Immediately, Emery fell asleep.
Typically, Noelle takes about an hour to calm herself down, which is why sleeping together has been so difficult in the past. She just can’t fall asleep when she hits the pillow, let alone lie still until she falls asleep. She has to hum, sing, roll around, move…anything until her body gets the wiggles out. It’s just her personality. But because she was so excited about Laney coming back into her room, Noelle stayed very, very still and very, very quiet.
But Laney was very upset about being up with Noelle, so she started to cry and yell “I hate sleeping in here! I wil NOT go to sleep with Noelle!” Oh my word. Seriously, this isn’t that big of a deal! Laney knows that calling or crying will result in her favorite blankie being taken away until she calms down, so I walk in, take the blanket, and say nothing to her. This of course throws her into a frenzy. I listen to her scream at me for 5 minutes when she finally starts calming down. But as soon as I go in to give her back her blanket, she starts explaining again how much she doesn’t want to be in the room with Noelle.
It is now 1 hour and 45 minutes after I put them to bed. And I think she is asleep. I need help. I need a great idea or a series of great ideas to nip this problem in the bud. We had friends over and they fell asleep right away, in the SAME BED! A miracle. We can hardly fall asleep in the same room, let alone the same bed. Can you see the ramifications of my daughters not being able to share a room? What about Grandma’s house? Hotels? What about when a babysitter comes and tries to put them to sleep? Or when they are babysat at someone else’s house? Or when we go to my brother’s to play games and they can’t fall asleep there. It is time for some intervention.
Please. Share you ideas. Share what has worked for you. Give me ANYTHING to work with, and if we haven’t tried it yet, we will. We just can’t keep going on like this.