Ending Bickering With Praise

How to go from this

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Do your children ever bicker?

Okay, you may put your hands down — it was a rhetorical question. All children bicker.  I have even heard children bicker to themselves. Bicker, bicker, bicker.  And usually what they complain about really isn’t that big of an issue at all; they just have to release their anxious energy somehow.

A couple of years ago I drove my kids around town and here’s what I heard from the back seat: “Stop it.”  “No, YOU stop!”  “That’s mine.”  “OUCH!  Mooooom – she pulled my hair!”

With hands on the steering wheel and eyes on the road, there wasn’t anything I could use to stop the arguing except my words.  And that’s when we started the “Praise You” Game.

I say, “You know what I like about  (child’s name)?”  And like magic, her mouth closes and her ears open.  After sharing some of her great attributes, I ask the other child what she likes about her.  Then we share what we like about the second child.  By the end, without fail (so far) everyone is friends again and feeling really good about themselves and each other.

Next time you hear your children getting on each others’ nerves, try it out — it may work.                        But if it doesn’t, don’t come bickering to me.

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About Heidi

My name is Heidi and I live on the North Shore of Oahu, Hawaii. I have three young girls and a baby son, and a husband who makes me laugh. We love to turn up the music and dance in the livingroom, bend down and smell fresh grass, and play at the beach in the sunshine. I run a stand up paddle school, sharing good times with tourists on the island. I love teaching stand up paddling, and it proves a challenge to do a good job raising a family while running a business. Like my post? Please leave a comment.
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One Response to Ending Bickering With Praise

  1. Erica says:

    I think I will try it out. Thanks Heidi! I love this idea.

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